Texting may be a simple communication tool when the dialogue between you and your
friend, your brother or your mom. But when it comes to guys, it becomes a
science to be studied with careful attention. If Freud was alive, I would def
request him an analysis on the topic. Since he’s not capable of doing that, I
did it myself. The conclusions I’ve made (and please tell me if you share the
same thoughts!):
1) Guys don’t like any kind of
punctuation that shows too much emotion. No exclamation or even interrogation
marks. Reticences are not good either, it seems like you’re waiting for
his response. So I ALWAYS stick with periods. They are safer.
2) Yes, I do think at least three
different ways to reply to his latest text, and then I rephrase the one I chose
at least twice. See, it is necessary.
The words you choose and the punctuation make all the difference.
3) The less, the better. Not too many
explanations, not to opened. I don’t want guys to be able to figure me out by
the text messages I sent. I want to keep the mystery and the interest alive, so
he will want to see me and get to know me better.
4) The first time he asks me out on a
date or sends me a hint through text that he wants to meet with me, I am busy.
No matter what. Something like, “I have plans for tonight already”. That’s it.
I don’t justify or say where. In my head I am thinking that I will lose him,
but the truth is: he will want me more. And the next invitation will come. If
he asks what the plan is, I go for the extremes. I either go for something simple, like “I
promised to the movies with my sister tonight”, so he will be intrigued, “Why does she prefer to
go to the movies with her sister instead of cancelling it and hanging out with
me?”. Or I go for something real fun, like a bar, or party, so he knows that I
am having fun, with or without him.
5) I always let his text be the last
one. So I never end the conversation. He will be wondering what I could’ve said
and I always have the opportunity to say something the next day, so it is not
too much text from me.
6) If I want to say something but I am
not too sure about after thinking it twice, I don’t say it. You can always say
something that hasn’t been said, but you can’t “unsend” a message (that should
be an option for the next phone generations!).
7) I NEVER answer him right away. It is
too boring, too predictable. He can’t know you’re there, available all the
time. He has to think you’re busy with something else, that you are not
checking your phone twice every second (even though that’s the truth). I like
him wondering when he will get my text, so I prefer him checking his phone ten
times a minute.
How crazy is that! haha!! Please tell me what do you think about it?
Bisou Bisou,
The BeautyBerries